While I was out in California in August, I picked up this great Michael Kors shirt on sale at Macy's. It was a little more expensive than I usually like my shirts to be, but it is a special shirt.

The pattern is great -- bold without being too flashy. The cloth is smooth and supple, with a soft sheen. The pink and milky are such a great color combination, and it is all topped off by the textured vector design woven into the cloth. Oh, the styling is great, with mitered cuffs and a slim cut.
So you get the idea -- I like this shirt. It makes me feel good to wear it. I am happy just touching it. But guess what? Those happy feelings are not going to last for long.
As I was thinking about how much I like the shirt, I was reminded of one of my political philosophy classes from undergrad. We were studying Rousseau. The professor hilighted a passage from the work we were studying, most likely from
The Social Contract, although I can't say for sure.
Rousseau said something like this: A man gets something new, and it makes him happy for a time. But slowly, he tires of it, and then he has to get something else new and even better to make him happy.
Now at the time, I had just gotten a brand new Bugle Boy fleece pullover at the local Khol's grand-opening sale. Now this may seem like a questionable fashion choice, and in many ways it was. However, given the context, it was a big deal for me.
First, this being the late 90s, fleece pullovers were still a typical fashion choice, particularly on a college campus. Second, I wasn't quite so caught up in "clothes" as I am now, so it was satisfying for me.
But the biggest reason I was so happy about it was that it was a serious upgrade from my previous light-weight jacket. See, in high school, when I had a $100 per year budget for clothes and shoes, I had bought this ass-ugly Spaulding windbreaker at a second-hand store. (And no, we're not talking about cool "vintage" clothing here. We're talking about hand-me-downs that you actually have to buy.) I wanted one of the cool Nike or Reebok windbreakers, but those were out of my price range. So I bought the poor-man's substitute. It probably cost $8 or $10, which at the time was a staggering sum.
Now this particular jacket was of a late 1980s-vintage. It was a patchwork of colors -- teal, fuschia, purple, red, blue -- all long since out of style. I would post a picture of it, but I'm quite sure that no picture of it exists, because I avoided wearing it whenever possible.
I had it for about two months before I figured out that it was
reallly uncool, and regretted buying it. But there wasn't much that I could do. I already had it, and my mom was not going to be sympathetic to my opinion that the jacket was made up of not one, but several, lame colors.
I spent the next four years trying to avoid wearing that jacket whenever possible. My mom, of course, was constantly trying to force me to wear it, as she strongly believed in the importance of wearing proper layers of insulation at all times. I would take it off the second I got in the school door and wad it up in the bottom of my locker. I would wait to put it on until I saw my mom pulling into the school driveway.
As a side note, my mom and I fought constantly about whether I needed to wear a coat or not every spring, fall, and winter for about eight years. I think everything would have been much more simple had I just made it clear that I thought my coats were ugly and uncool and as going to avoid wearing them whenever possible because I was embarrassed. (I should also note that after I discarded the windbreaker, my mom happily took it and wore it for several years.)
Anyway, getting back to the story. I think you get the idea that I DID NOT like this Spaulding windbreaker. So finally, four years after buying it, I made the major investment of buying the new Bugle Boy fleece, for the astounding sum of $16. I was a high-roller in college, I'm telling you.
The fleece made me so completely happy. All of a sudden, I was happy for a cool day on which I could wear a light coat. I adored the fleece. I liked the texture. I liked the pull tab on the zipper, which was puffy plastic that encased reflective material -- it was fun to squeeze. The colors were great.
As I sat in my political philosophy class, my new fleece on my lap, I heard Rousseau's words about how new possessions only make us happy temporarily. I fingered the fleece, thinking that I would never grow tired of it. It was too special. I liked it too much. And besides, in my mind, it was the ultimate coat. How could one ever devalue such a perfect piece of clothing?
Needless to say, I grew tired of the fleece. My tastes changed, and I gave it to Goodwill several years ago. Even before I decided that it was passe from a fashion standpoint, I had little love for it. As I wore it more, the "shiny newness" wore off. I no longer derived happiness from wearing it. It was just another commodity.
Eventually, the same thing is going to happen to my Michael Kors shirt. It will start to wear a little. I'll get used to how it looks. It just won't be exciting anymore.
The point of all this, I think, is the ultimate futility of materialism. I've been thinking a lot about it lately. Researching that I read last week pointed out that people become progressively happier as they make more money -- up to $50,000 or so. Beyond that, additional money doesn't seem to add utility to people's lives. In some cases, it's "mo money, mo problems."
I think I am far to prone to chasing money and material things as a proxy for happiness. And while those things can make me happier, it's not going to be a long-term solution. I'm just going to need more things -- probably better things -- to keep being happy. And that leaves me in a endless cycle of chasing more and more money to get this "stuff."
It's a lot to think about. But I want to work on pursuing happiness internally, versus externally.